The first time Mama saw Ray, she said : Eh....he looks like a playboy. Got that flirty look leh. Plus you both status so confusing. What is the relationship between you two huh?
My answer to her then was : Aiya, playboy then playboy la. No status then no status la. I am not looking for a partner now anyway. Plus you want to match-make me to the Indo-Chinese guy in Batam all the time. I can play around before going for the match-make session mah.
Then, Ray and I went to Genting for a weekend and the rest, like they said....is history.
Yesterday, while Ray was out, Mama came and have a talk with me.
Mama : Are you both getting married? If yes, can get married at end of 2010 or wait till 2011?
Me : *looking nervous* Why must this kind of date huh? *then got dramatic* And why you want to marry me off so quickly? Six months ago, you want to send me to match-make with some guy and now you want to marry me off?
Mama : No la. Cos we (Mama, Stepdad and sister) are moving back to Woodlands after your sister's PSLE next year. So, when you guys get married then, there is extra space.
Me : But we are all perfectly fine now mah. Enough rooms mah. No need to move la.
Mama : Then when you have baby, how? Baby sleep where?
Me : *wah kao....my mama think until so far* Sleep with me, in my room la. Eh, I thought you say Ray look very flirtatious? You dare to marry me off to him ah? Not scared later he cheat on me?
Mama : You happy can already. If happy, then marry, When not happy, then divorce. Anyway, you so fierce, if he cheat on you, he know he will kena jialat jialat.
Me : *knn* I change already ok?!?! I very good tempered now hor! Very long never "chu" stunts already can???? Fine, so you DARE to marry me off to a flirtatious looking guy now la?
Mama : Whatever la. Whatever makes you happy.
Mama's love - how great it is. In a situation like that, parents will only react two ways. One, insist that that guy is a flirt, and stop you from going out with him or nag till you stop dating him. Second, let you do whatever that makes you happy. If you succeed, they pop champers to celebrate your success. If you fail, they welcome you back into their embraces with a blanket and warm cocoa (in my case, it's a few bottles of wine).
I remember Mama was very strict with me when I was a kid. She used to cane me till I scream and yelp (and black out once which is hilarious everytime we talk about it). But one thing that she did and I always felt that she did right was being very supportive in whatever we do. Even when she knows that chances of succeeding is near zero, she will still let us do what we want. She believes that to know the pain and to avoid getting hurt in future, you need to fall and climb back up yourself first. However, the one thing she will always do is have our backs when we come crying home.
When Ray and I were at the status-unknown stage, many times I had to defend our relationship and my choice. I know a lot of people were not happy then because they felt I deserve better but it was also too late to turn back. Mama questioned our relationship only once and she left it at that. Of course, when we went official, I could see the relief on her face.
Now, almost six months later, I know Mama has come to accept Ray fully and she is actually not worried about marrying me off to him. *looks amused*
The last big thing for this year, I guess, will be that we finally have Mama's blessings. This is really important to me because it means that I will not have to defend Ray and our relationship anymore. Eh....the Empress Dowager has spoken. Who dares to defy her?
I am truly blessed. I started 2009 in tears but thirty hours from now, I will bade farewell to it with a huge smile (or Pikachu grin as Ray would have call it). ^_^
Pikachu grin :
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