That Ring

Just out of curiosity, what does wearing a ring on your left ring finger means to you?

Call me old-fashion but to me, a ring on one's left ring finger means that person is taken. Married, engaged or simply attached is not the point. It simply means that person is taken. It means DO NOT hit on that person. It means stay a reasonable amount of distance away physically or emotionally.

I myself, when first meeting a guy, I look at the ring finger. If there is a ring or a faint line that implies a ring has just been removed not long ago, I say Hi and then stay a reasonable distance away. Of course, if there is nothing there, I will get possessed by 青蛇。Muahahahahaha!

Bad habit but when I want to know how my friend's relationships are going, I look at their ring fingers first. The moment I see the rings gone, alarm bells start going off. Because wearing a ring to declare to the world you are taken takes so much courage. To remove it, simply implies something's wrong, no?
To me, the ring that you wear represents your commitment and your love for your spouse, your faithfulness. Removing it means you are breaking the commitment.

I never believe in excuses like forgetting to wear a ring or having to remove it because of some sports. Come on la, want to hide it means want to hide it. No excuses. After all, if you really love something, you protect it the best way you can - which means you keep every possible temptation out of the way.

So, maybe the next time you wear a ring or wants to remove it, understand the commitment you are giving to another and what it means when you remove it.

Advice or A Realization?

And so today, I am once again amazed at myself with the advice I gave. 

I realized - it is when one is giving advice to another, that is when you type out what you exactly feel.

In one of the support groups I was involved in, I was telling another single mum this when I realize it was what I was telling myself:

"I feel that eventually you need to think what makes you happy. If you close your eyes and picture yourself 20 Years down the road, is this the person you want beside you and your answer Is No, then it's best to let go. You don't need to kick that person away immediately. We all know how how hard it is letting go, especially when you did give your heart at one point and love that person.....So do it at your own pace and comfort, but first and foremost, remember it's your happiness that comes first."

This was after a long conversation about how her husband loved her before marriage and before the kid comes along.

Maybe because my own love life is not at it's best stage now. Maybe it is becoming normal that love is replying a few texts now and then. Maybe it's a norm that people just give the bare minimum. Looking at more and more soon-to-be-broken relationships, I am starting to question myself - what the fuck is wrong with people these days? 

Do we really love or we took the infatuation at first, made it look like love, made empty promises to another then take the easy way out by ghosting?